Wednesday, August 17th, 2011 at 4:13 pm
Question by Rachel: How do I tell my mom about this?
All right, I did something behind my mom’s back. But it wasn’t anything bad. I took our dog to the vet and used my own money to pay for it. But I went while she was at work so she doesn’t know. But there was a reason I had to do this.
My mom was neglecting the dog and borderline abusing him. All because he licked and bit his feet and she thought he was annoying when he did it. She wouldn’t even acknowledge that he probably had an allergy and that was why he was doing it. She was only concerned about it being annoying so all she did was yell at him and smack him when he did it, which never made him stop. He has been licking/biting for FOUR years now and she couldn’t even figure out that obviously the yelling and hitting wasn’t doing anything to stop him. Plus, the dog would sometimes gnaw on his feet until they bled. His paws probably hurt and itch all the time and I can’t even imagine how much he’s been suffering for all these years because my mom won’t ask the vet about it. She’ll still take him to the vet for check-ups or if he gets an ear infection, but won’t even ask about the paws.
Anyway, I love my dog and I love all animals and I know it’s wrong to treat them this way and neglect them, and I finally decided I was going to take care of this myself since my mom wouldn’t. Yes, I did try to talk to her about it in a civil manner back when it first started. I just told her that he was probably doing this due to allergies and she should take him to the vet. I also got upset after she slapped him for licking and let her know this (but I still wasn’t disrespectful). But she didn’t listen to a thing I said. She acted offended that I thought she was mistreating him, and she also just insisted that the dog didn’t have an allergy and only licked because he was bored. I knew that wasn’t true because he wouldn’t make himself bleed and literally lick/bite for HOURS at a time if he was bored.
So, now that I’m old enough to drive and make my own money, I took the dog to the vet. I scheduled an appointment without her knowing and just took him today while she was at work. This was a different vet than the one he regularly goes to, so they didn’t know my mom and I told them part of the reason I was there and not my mom. I did spare the details about her hitting him, but I told them that my mom just wasn’t taking it seriously and wouldn’t seek medical attention. Anyway, they did an exam and they found that he most likely had food allergies, and found that he also had a skin infection, probably because bacteria have just been thriving down there in his paws for FOUR years while my mom did nothing for him. He also had yeast in his ears because of the allergies. So the vet prescribed some pills to help the dog, and luckily, though just barely, I was able to pay for everything. (I had a seasonal job over the holiday season which is why I had enough money, and I’m currently trying to find another job). But anyway, I didn’t want to tell my mom my plans to take the dog before because I was afraid she’d try to stop me. But now I’m going to have to tell her, because the vet wants to see him again next week to check and see how the medicine has been working. And my mom won’t be working a week from today so I’ll have to tell her why I’m taking him to the vet. I honestly have no idea how she’d react. I don’t know if she’d change her tune if she realized she was wrong all these years and he does have allergies. I don’t know if she’ll feel bad that I had to spend all my money, or if she’ll be mad that I got those pills for him without her knowing. So how do I tell her?
Best answer:
Answer by Miranda, the Anonymous sinner.
You cared and perhaps went about it wrong. But it sounds like the vet of your choice helped the dog out. Yes, tell your mother. She might get mad, but after she figures out that you helped the dog she might be forgiving. Just tell her you did this from concern.
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